There’s no water in that river that was there ten years in the past.
The boundaries have shifted in that point as effectively, there’s no riverbank that’s precisely the place it was. And the silt and the fish have all moved too.
So, what’s “the Mississippi River”?
It’s a label, a placeholder, and a marker–when the Mississippi does one thing we don’t count on it to do, we touch upon it.
Persons are like this as effectively. What in the event you may solely be recognized for one of the best (or the worst) factor you ever did? You’re not that particular person now, and it’s probably you’ll by no means be that particular person once more. However that’s the label we gave you.
After we discuss concerning the group or the model or that neighbor down the road, we act as these are immutable objects, fundamental unchanging components or static information.
However like rivers, folks change.
When the label stops being helpful, we should always change it. The issue with holding a grudge is that it makes your arms too full to do something helpful.